How to make decisions in life?

Sometimes I write to explain. Today I'm writing to express.

It's always an interesting decision. Do we go with what other people who we love and respect are telling us, or do we follow our own gut, our own mind. What about if both decisions are in direct conflict? If we follow our own mind, we run the risk of denying the sound advice of our elders and then making big mistakes which we're fully responsible for. If we follow those who we love and respect, we run the risk of not choosing our own life and living in regret.

How does one decide what is the right or wrong thing to do? Is there such thing as making a right decision or a wrong decision? Some decisions cause us a lot of pain and create confusion, create wild emotions within us. Are such decisions wrong because of their effects on ourselves and others? Some decisions create harmony, peace, tranquillity. But are such decisions right, or are they just 'playing it safe?' and living an ordinary life within one's comfort zone?

Today, all these questions besiege me because I'm stepping out of my comfort zone. I've had the courage to venture out to discover a life completely free from the past. But with this discovery and freedom there is a price to pay. The price is the potential of loosing my values, my self-respect, those things which ground me. In a way, by venturing out beyond what is normal or ordinary, I am going back on everything I have built up so far, everything I have carefully crafted and designed, leaving it all behind. The price is potentially loosing everything, even myself.

But I have made a decision. My decision is that venturing out too far to a point of loosing all values, compassion and grace IS too far. Directly going against the words of those who we should trust, who are wiser than us, who have lived life - that really IS crossing the line. It's crossing the line because the word of those who are wise, our elders, our teachers, our guides usually do not have an agenda. Instead they have experience, they know where life is at and what life is about. They've made life work. Their words are true. Their words are for our ultimate benefit, our ultimate liberation (assuming you have a good teacher that is!).

So yes, I am choosing this today: Trust my heart, trust the Universe, be open in communication, be graceful, be compassionate. Let's see where this decision takes me. I'm comfortable with it.

Also, as a note to myself: Isn't it interesting how the Universe has a way of teaching a lesson? This time via an episode of Star Trek Voyager: Flesh and Blood I and II. Even if I temporarily turn my back on the Universe, or even my path, it continues to teach me compassionately. One thing I know for sure: The Guru's always got me, there's no turning back from that, once you're in His Grace, there's no turning back fortunately ;).

How to make decisions in life?

Sometimes I write to explain. Today I'm writing to express.

It's always an interesting decision. Do we go with what other people who we love and respect are telling us, or do we follow our own gut, our own mind. What about if both decisions are in direct conflict? If we follow our own mind, we run the risk of denying the sound advice of our elders and then making big mistakes which we're fully responsible for. If we follow those who we love and respect, we run the risk of not choosing our own life and living in regret.

How does one decide what is the right or wrong thing to do? Is there such thing as making a right decision or a wrong decision? Some decisions cause us a lot of pain and create confusion, create wild emotions within us. Are such decisions wrong because of their effects on ourselves and others? Some decisions create harmony, peace, tranquillity. But are such decisions right, or are they just 'playing it safe?' and living an ordinary life within one's comfort zone?

Today, all these questions besiege me because I'm stepping out of my comfort zone. I've had the courage to venture out to discover a life completely free from the past. But with this discovery and freedom there is a price to pay. The price is the potential of loosing my values, my self-respect, those things which ground me. In a way, by venturing out beyond what is normal or ordinary, I am going back on everything I have built up so far, everything I have carefully crafted and designed, leaving it all behind. The price is potentially loosing everything, even myself.

But I have made a decision. My decision is that venturing out too far to a point of loosing all values, compassion and grace IS too far. Directly going against the words of those who we should trust, who are wiser than us, who have lived life - that really IS crossing the line. It's crossing the line because the word of those who are wise, our elders, our teachers, our guides usually do not have an agenda. Instead they have experience, they know where life is at and what life is about. They've made life work. Their words are true. Their words are for our ultimate benefit, our ultimate liberation (assuming you have a good teacher that is!).

So yes, I am choosing this today: Trust my heart, trust the Universe, be open in communication, be graceful, be compassionate. Let's see where this decision takes me. I'm comfortable with it.

Also, as a note to myself: Isn't it interesting how the Universe has a way of teaching a lesson? This time via an episode of Star Trek Voyager: Flesh and Blood I and II. Even if I temporarily turn my back on the Universe, or even my path, it continues to teach me compassionately. One thing I know for sure: The Guru's always got me, there's no turning back from that, once you're in His Grace, there's no turning back fortunately ;).

The Awakening - By Sonny Carroll

A time comes in your life when you finally get it...when, in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out...ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying and blaming and struggling to hold on.

Then, like a child quieting down after a tantrum, you blink back your tears and begin to look at the world through new eyes.

This is your awakening.

You realize it's time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change, or for happiness, safety and security to magically appear over the next horizon. You realize that in the real world there aren't always fairy tale endings, and that any guarantee of "happily ever after" must begin with you... and in the process a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are... and that's OK. They are entitled to their own views and opinions.

You learn the importance of loving and championing yourself... and in the process a sense of new found confidence is born of self-approval. You stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you - or didn't do for you - and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected.

You learn that people don't always say what they mean or mean what they say and that not everyone will always be there for you and that everything isn't always about you.

So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself... and in the process a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.

You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties... and in the process a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness.

You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. You begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for.

You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you've outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with.

You learn that there is power and glory in creating and contributing and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a "consumer" looking for your next fix.

You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a bygone era, but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life.

You learn that you don't know everything, it's not your job to save the world and that you can't teach a pig to sing. You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry and that martyrs get burned at the stake.

Then you learn about love. You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be. You learn that alone does not mean lonely.

You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes. You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO.

You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing things over and ignoring your needs.

You learn that your body really is your temple. You begin to care for it and treat it with respect. You begin to eat a balanced diet, drink more water, and take more time to exercise.

You learn that being tired fuels doubt, fear, and uncertainty and so you take more time to rest. And, just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul. So you take more time to laugh and to play.

You learn that, for the most part, you get in life what you believe you deserve, and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.

You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for and that wishing for something to happen is different than working toward making it happen.

More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you need direction, discipline and perseverance. You also learn that no one can do it all alone, and that it's OK to risk asking for help.

You learn the only thing you must truly fear is fear itself. You learn to step right into and through your fears because you know that whatever happens you can handle it and to give in to fear is to give away the right to live life on your own terms.

You learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom.

You learn that life isn't always fair, you don't always get what you think you deserve and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people... and you learn not to always take it personally.

You learn that nobody's punishing you and everything isn't always somebody's fault. It's just life happening. You learn to admit when you are wrong and to build bridges instead of walls.

You learn that negative feelings such as anger, envy and resentment must be understood and redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that surrounds you.

You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted, things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream about: a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a long hot shower.

Then, you begin to take responsibility for yourself by yourself and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never, ever settle for less than your heart's desire.

You make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open to every wonderful possibility.

You hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind.

Finally, with courage in your heart, you take a stand, you take a deep breath, and you begin to design the life you want to live as best you can.

By Sonny Carroll

The Awakening - By Sonny Carroll

A time comes in your life when you finally get it...when, in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out...ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying and blaming and struggling to hold on.

Then, like a child quieting down after a tantrum, you blink back your tears and begin to look at the world through new eyes.

This is your awakening.

You realize it's time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change, or for happiness, safety and security to magically appear over the next horizon. You realize that in the real world there aren't always fairy tale endings, and that any guarantee of "happily ever after" must begin with you... and in the process a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are... and that's OK. They are entitled to their own views and opinions.

You learn the importance of loving and championing yourself... and in the process a sense of new found confidence is born of self-approval. You stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you - or didn't do for you - and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected.

You learn that people don't always say what they mean or mean what they say and that not everyone will always be there for you and that everything isn't always about you.

So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself... and in the process a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.

You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties... and in the process a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness.

You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. You begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for.

You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you've outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with.

You learn that there is power and glory in creating and contributing and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a "consumer" looking for your next fix.

You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a bygone era, but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life.

You learn that you don't know everything, it's not your job to save the world and that you can't teach a pig to sing. You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry and that martyrs get burned at the stake.

Then you learn about love. You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be. You learn that alone does not mean lonely.

You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes. You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO.

You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing things over and ignoring your needs.

You learn that your body really is your temple. You begin to care for it and treat it with respect. You begin to eat a balanced diet, drink more water, and take more time to exercise.

You learn that being tired fuels doubt, fear, and uncertainty and so you take more time to rest. And, just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul. So you take more time to laugh and to play.

You learn that, for the most part, you get in life what you believe you deserve, and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.

You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for and that wishing for something to happen is different than working toward making it happen.

More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you need direction, discipline and perseverance. You also learn that no one can do it all alone, and that it's OK to risk asking for help.

You learn the only thing you must truly fear is fear itself. You learn to step right into and through your fears because you know that whatever happens you can handle it and to give in to fear is to give away the right to live life on your own terms.

You learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom.

You learn that life isn't always fair, you don't always get what you think you deserve and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people... and you learn not to always take it personally.

You learn that nobody's punishing you and everything isn't always somebody's fault. It's just life happening. You learn to admit when you are wrong and to build bridges instead of walls.

You learn that negative feelings such as anger, envy and resentment must be understood and redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that surrounds you.

You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted, things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream about: a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a long hot shower.

Then, you begin to take responsibility for yourself by yourself and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never, ever settle for less than your heart's desire.

You make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open to every wonderful possibility.

You hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind.

Finally, with courage in your heart, you take a stand, you take a deep breath, and you begin to design the life you want to live as best you can.

By Sonny Carroll

28th of July 2010 - Meri Zindagi Heh Teri Bandagi

I feel like writing, so I will. I rarely write about myself or my day because it's usually not very relevant to people or applicable at a general level - but today I want to record my state of mind so that one day when I reflect back I can assess my own state of consciousness.

Well, today is Wednesday 28th of July, Twenty-Ten, and I love my life. I love the freedom of being able to create in consciousness whatever I want. I get inspiration from many different sources - TV, videos, internet, nature, parents, friends, soulmates, God and my own mind and soul. I follow my heart, whatever it wants to do. Watch a film, watch a TV programme, play the piano, do internet stuff, drink freshly squeezed lemonade, binge on cake and chocolate, go shopping - whatever. It doesn't matter. I'm not very intellectual, my maths and science are at a basic level, but it doesn't matter to me. It doesn't matter because I have no desire to go deeply into anything, not even within myself.

It might seem strange to people, but religion or spirituality means nothing to me but being human. I don't know whether God exists, although I can feel some greater guiding my life, who am I to assume that's God. If God is the greatest possible being then its quite likely I can't imagine Him or Her or It or Them. So what's the point in trying? I'd rather just be. And that's mostly what I do all day, I just be. "Be what?", you might ask? Just be present to life. I just accept it as it is, and I accept I can never understand it fully. Even one million years from now this statement I know will hold true to some stupid historian that has nothing better to do than to analyse history by looking at all our blog posts of this time and then categorise our state of development of consciousness at this given time - well Mr. Historian - I do feel sorry for you! Get a new job! lol!

I'm not saying we should live like we did before the industrial revolution, we should progress technologically and scientifically, but it will never tell us the answer. Even a theory which supposedly explains everything won't be able to. So I think, just relax and enjoy life, why bother imagining the unimaginable? Also, desire and progress I find intriguing at this time. Desire just drives us mental, quicker we learn to manage desire the better - that's been my pursuit all these years and might I add, lifetimes. In modern speak, desire is a bitch that needs to be put on a leash and progress is an illusion created by idiots. I know its sounds harsh, but truth is harsh sometimes.

The whole world moves by desire, but I try and fight it off like a disease, sometimes I succeed and sometimes I fail, but my soul always tries to fight it off or manage it. I have no desire to have anything against desire, it is what it is. Desire is a disease we all have. What do you do with a disease which you can't get rid of? Learn to accept it and live with it as best as possible. Progress is a word given by deluded people who cannot accept what is now. I personally believe true progress is not going forwards, its going backwards to our original originality.

Step into my life for moment instead of yours! :) If I have no desire, then how could there be progress? Well, the so called 'progress' we call today is just a bunch of bullshit, often literally. Its all stagnant, lifeless, rotting, stinking. Its all based on desire. Modern progress can eloquently be defined as "A human being acting like a dog, being pulled by a leash through the bullshit". Now that's science for you! You may not understand what I'm saying but I'm OK with that. Maybe you'll quote me someday, maybe not, but I've said all I needed to in this paragraph which is the summary of today's world. Now, Mr. Historian, I did all your work for you didn't I? Hahahaha! What an irony, you would think that without thoughts would make you stupid when in actuality, it gives a person superior intelligence.

Well, in summary Meri Zindagi Heh Teri Bandagi. Translation My Life Is Your Salutation. Interpret this how you will.

;) In Divine Service and Light,

Me.

28th of July 2010 - Meri Zindagi Heh Teri Bandagi

I feel like writing, so I will. I rarely write about myself or my day because it's usually not very relevant to people or applicable at a general level - but today I want to record my state of mind so that one day when I reflect back I can assess my own state of consciousness.

Well, today is Wednesday 28th of July, Twenty-Ten, and I love my life. I love the freedom of being able to create in consciousness whatever I want. I get inspiration from many different sources - TV, videos, internet, nature, parents, friends, soulmates, God and my own mind and soul. I follow my heart, whatever it wants to do. Watch a film, watch a TV programme, play the piano, do internet stuff, drink freshly squeezed lemonade, binge on cake and chocolate, go shopping - whatever. It doesn't matter. I'm not very intellectual, my maths and science are at a basic level, but it doesn't matter to me. It doesn't matter because I have no desire to go deeply into anything, not even within myself.

It might seem strange to people, but religion or spirituality means nothing to me but being human. I don't know whether God exists, although I can feel some greater guiding my life, who am I to assume that's God. If God is the greatest possible being then its quite likely I can't imagine Him or Her or It or Them. So what's the point in trying? I'd rather just be. And that's mostly what I do all day, I just be. "Be what?", you might ask? Just be present to life. I just accept it as it is, and I accept I can never understand it fully. Even one million years from now this statement I know will hold true to some stupid historian that has nothing better to do than to analyse history by looking at all our blog posts of this time and then categorise our state of development of consciousness at this given time - well Mr. Historian - I do feel sorry for you! Get a new job! lol!

I'm not saying we should live like we did before the industrial revolution, we should progress technologically and scientifically, but it will never tell us the answer. Even a theory which supposedly explains everything won't be able to. So I think, just relax and enjoy life, why bother imagining the unimaginable? Also, desire and progress I find intriguing at this time. Desire just drives us mental, quicker we learn to manage desire the better - that's been my pursuit all these years and might I add, lifetimes. In modern speak, desire is a bitch that needs to be put on a leash and progress is an illusion created by idiots. I know its sounds harsh, but truth is harsh sometimes.

The whole world moves by desire, but I try and fight it off like a disease, sometimes I succeed and sometimes I fail, but my soul always tries to fight it off or manage it. I have no desire to have anything against desire, it is what it is. Desire is a disease we all have. What do you do with a disease which you can't get rid of? Learn to accept it and live with it as best as possible. Progress is a word given by deluded people who cannot accept what is now. I personally believe true progress is not going forwards, its going backwards to our original originality.

Step into my life for moment instead of yours! :) If I have no desire, then how could there be progress? Well, the so called 'progress' we call today is just a bunch of bullshit, often literally. Its all stagnant, lifeless, rotting, stinking. Its all based on desire. Modern progress can eloquently be defined as "A human being acting like a dog, being pulled by a leash through the bullshit". Now that's science for you! You may not understand what I'm saying but I'm OK with that. Maybe you'll quote me someday, maybe not, but I've said all I needed to in this paragraph which is the summary of today's world. Now, Mr. Historian, I did all your work for you didn't I? Hahahaha! What an irony, you would think that without thoughts would make you stupid when in actuality, it gives a person superior intelligence.

Well, in summary Meri Zindagi Heh Teri Bandagi. Translation My Life Is Your Salutation. Interpret this how you will.

;) In Divine Service and Light,

Me.