15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy

Article by Dana from Purpose Fairy: http://www.purposefairy.com/3308/15-things-you-should-give-up-in-order-to-be-happy/

Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go:

1. Give up your need to always be right. There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?”Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?

2. Give up your need for control. Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.

“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu

3. Give up on blame. Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.

4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk. Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.

“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle

5. Give up your limiting beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!

“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle

6. Give up complaining. Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.

7. Give up the luxury of criticism. Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.

8. Give up your need to impress others. Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take of all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.

9. Give up your resistance to change. Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” Joseph Campbell

10. Give up labels. Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer

11. Give up on your fears. Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.
“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt

12. Give up your excuses. Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.

13. Give up the past. I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.

14. Give up attachment. This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another,  attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.

15. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations. Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves.  You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.

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Are You A Hypocrite?

The path to self realisation begins with the thought that 'I am a hypocrite'. Admitting the truth, only then can things change.

I have had many realisations like this, many times, and I hope I continue to throughout my life as it keeps me on my toes and makes me realise that I'm not perfect and still have a lot to learn. It keeps me learning, sometimes very harsh lessons.

Being a personal development coach requires one to always be alert to what is really going on inside. Sometimes I find that I don't follow my own advice and ultimately it leads to my own downfall, and I end up being very harsh to myself about it. 

I usually know the answer but I'm not always willing to follow the answer, trust the answer, live the answer. Change is easy to delay unless there is a pressure to change, and often, there is no pressure from the outside, so it must be created from within.

One of the greatest pressures is the thought of death. I ask myself, "are you really willing to continue being a hypocrite if you were to die tomorrow, is what you're doing worth it?"

This is how I learn. I learn by assessing where I'm being inauthentic in my life. I learn from where I'm preaching but not practising. I learn by remembering death.

So, ask yourself these same very blunt questions if you think you're ready for a transformation in your life:

• Where are you being a hypocrite in your life?
• What will it take for you to change?
• What happens if you were to die tomorrow, is what you're doing worth it?

Sat Naam.

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"There is always a benefit, if you look hard enough"

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How To Be Original

Originality is a simple formula:

Be You + Don't Care What Others Think + Express Yourself = Originality

Well Einstein did say the formula to everything would be simple ;)

So...

Basically: express your true self.

Your true self is already perfectly original. God doesn't make mistakes and doesn't repeat Himself. God doesn't repeat Himself.

The question then arises: I don't know what my true self is? And how do I express it?

The true self is the unconditioned self. First you have to do A LOT OF WORK on yourself. Undo the conditioning of society, family, religion. Undo beliefs, morals, preferences, likes, dislikes. Undo your personality and know why you do what you do.

Then you learn to not BE anything, except just yourself. Then you're not trying to manipulate people or boost your own ego either quietly or overtly, you're not trying to ACT like anybody else, you're not trying to mimic someone else (not even your role models), you're just authentically YOU.

Because you're not so worried about how you come across, you naturally feel OK to express yourself just how you are. This is how you can learn to just flow. Creativity is your nature. Creativity is only blocked when you're trying too hard to impress, to fit into somebody else's box, to try and modify yourself so you are more 'acceptable'. Be you. Don't Care What Others Think. Express Yourself.

...then you'll be creatively original.

Sat Naam.

Struggling Against The Inevitable

Often we know something is inevitable, and although we try to struggle against it, to fight the current, we know we cannot stop it.

Like old ideas. We hold onto them, but inevitably they will die out. Like old relationships. We hold onto them, but they cannot continue.

For example...

The idea that money, property, wealth and position are important is outdated.
The idea that manipulation and secrecy are important is outdated.
The idea that competition and winning are important is outdated.

The idea that personality, names, titles and qualifications are important is outdated.

The idea that you can achieve happiness outside of yourself is outdated.

For example, we "believe" in a God. Believing in God does not make God so. God exists independent of our opinions or beliefs. God is too vast to believe in, to understand, to comprehend. And yet we still try to know Him, we still try to reach him. You can only reach the God in you. You cannot reach the God beyond the beyond. We want to hold onto something beyond ourselves, we are not secure in holding onto our own self within ourselves.

We do not realise that we are Gods. Our hands have the power of creation and destruction, as do our lips, our minds and our hearts.

But, we continue to struggle.

Religion is just a set of beliefs and rituals which are empty without consciousness. The job of religion is for individuals to grow in self awareness, in truth, in compassion and love for everyone, but often people who are insecure hold onto religion as a means of feeling reassured. People of such consciousness are outdated, they will not understand the new world which is coming to be.

Struggle happens when our expectations are not met by reality. Reality is changing and so should our expectations. The world is changing and so should our expectations. The universe is changing and so should our expectations.

The struggle only ends when we grow, when we learn to flow, when we learn to give it up.

Do not struggle dear soul of the new age, go with the flow, and allow the flow to lead you into the ultimate light of awareness and beauty.

Sat Naam.

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Indigo Baby

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Indigo Girl

Time Travel & Creativity

Please understand that everything we think, say and do is recorded into the fabric of space-time by the Universal Tape Recorder which stores this information forever. The information is stored in a particular location (longitude and latitude) at a particular point in time. The Universe has an unlimited amount of storage space too to store all this information.

Sometimes when people are sitting down and they have a moment of genius, a light bulb moment, often this is because they are sitting in a spot where there is a lot of stored information from the past and because they are meditative they are picking up the data through the intuition or pituitary gland. The information includes thoughts, conversations, feelings and actions done by people in the past in that exact location.

If you know how, you can access all these thoughts, conversations, feelings and actions just as simply as rewinding and playing a tape recorder. It requires one to meditate and listen deeply through the inner ear which is infinitely more sensitive than the physical ears and can pick up information from the past, present and future. If you just listen deeply you can hear and see all those conversations. Cool hey? It's a bit like time travelling.

Therefore, for all intents and purposes do not think negatively, do not speak negatively and do not do negative actions otherwise they will be stored in history and you will be held to account for them. As crafty as some people like to be, they cannot get away from the universe storing the truth on its tape recorder - and the truth has a funny tendency of coming out sooner or later right?

The past is a great source of creativity to tap into through meditation because the chances are that everything that can be thought of has been thought of at some point in history by somebody. The Universe works on basic principles, and so rarely is an idea ever totally fresh, it's usually just another way of looking at or expressing an existing idea.

Creativity can therefore be perceived as not creating something new from the ground up, but instead reusing something existing in a new way.

Sat Naam.

P.S. This is an advanced topic and this article contains many gems and truths which can only really be understood and realised through an experience of activating the inner ear which hears all of time.

Time Follows Your Orders

Time follows your orders. When you say 'I don't have enough time' or 'time is too short' then time must obey your orders. Time is a being. In Sanskrit time is given the name Kal, and Kal can speak and comment on the events of the past, present and the future yet to come.

Time is bound to a human being's orders, and all other beings with consciousness. So when we say 'time is going fast', we are causing it to go fast and when we say 'time is going slow' we are causing it to go slow.

A human being often becomes a victim to their own orders and then blames time. When humans are stressed they begin to feel an urgency to do things, they panic and in their panic they say, think and feel things like 'there's no time' or 'time is running out'. Time or Kal then obeys these orders, creating a destructive loop of increasing stress and reducing time.

Therefore, whenever possible, be aware of what you order time to do or not do and it will obey your orders, your thoughts and your feelings. Remain self-aware and make Kal your friend.

Sat Naam.

Want an Enlightenment Experience? [Video by Yogiraj Siddhanath Gurunath]

I first went to see Master Yogiraj Siddhanath Gurunath when I was 18 years old. At the time I was studying at Aston University in Birmingham, and had just been watching a few videos on YouTube of him when curiosity made me check out the Hamsa Yoga website. Miraculously enough he was visiting Birmingham the very next week! Can you believe it? I was over the moon! It was one of those WOW moments when destiny becomes crystal clear. I vividly remember it being a Thursday, the same day I used to do a Kundalini Yoga class. In fact, the exact date was Thursday 14th of June 2007 (thanks to Gmail). So I text my yoga teacher to ask permission to see if I could go to this event instead and she text back with the simple words "Follow your intuition. Sat Nam". And so I did, and went along, knowing it to be a part of my destiny.

I was intrigued by what the master said he could do, and indeed what all masters are able to do:

1. Shivapat - Sharing his Enlightened Consciousness of thoughtless awareness
2. Shaktipat - Transmitting center to center in the disciple’s Chakras the Kundalini Energy which burns their negative karmas
3. Pranapat - Breathing his spiritual Prana (life-force) through the breath of the disciples in their spinal cord flushing out all toxins & emotional stress.

So I went with the sole purpose of experiencing these transmissions from the master.

I went away that day, after also having the chance to eat opposite the master in a restaurant after the event, experiencing all of those graces of the master and getting a direct initiation into Kriya Yoga by Yogiraj Gurunath Siddhanath himself.

I left that evening with a much wider heart, a much wider mind, an experience of a still mind state and an experience of enlightenment. I went back to see the master many times at different retreats, but I'll save those enchanting and more miraculous stories for another day.

Now for the real deal, experience what I experienced that day for yourself. Drop your mind, drop your doubts, drop your thoughts, drop your scepticism, open your heart, feel love for the master, connect to the master's heart, trust the master, look at him with eyes of love and you will be well on your way to an unforgettable experience...

Sat Nam...

After watching the following video, it brought all those wonderful memories back of the first time I got to see him. The time and grace I enjoyed with this very rare master whom I believe I am related to from previous lives.

Ego vs Humility

Some people are so EGOTISTICAL that they think they're humble. For me this is the most annoying type of human being which I wouldn't mind slapping around a little.

Somebody who thinks they know humility, and pretends to act all humble, when under the surface there is clearly shit hitting the fan, an over cleverness and an over righteous attitude.

Being humble is a very sacred state between an individual and the Guru, the Universe and God. Humility is in not caring what other people think, being compassionately truthful and totally AUTHENTIC. Authenticity lacks in an egomaniac. There is just an image which must be protected, an idealism, a pompous over-perfection. It really makes my blood boil sometimes! :@

A humble person is straight up, says it how it is, and yet is not doing it out of anger but instead out of integrity and truth. A humble person radiates total respect for the other, has authentic sweetness and compassion for all. Again that buzz word: authentic which can be defined as what you see is what you get.

Egotistical people like to bullshit often, sweet talk just to play games, and have an idea that they have a reputation to protect. I personally don't buy it and don't indulge in it myself. The truth is sometimes sharp and politically incorrect, but I prefer it over living a lie and covering up everything just to look good in front of people.

So there we have it - a not so comprehensive introduction to humility vs ego - but I hope you got the flavour ;)

Love,

J.

P.S. This blog post is intentionally written in a VERY provoking style to get across the idea of "not caring what other people think". In reality what other people think is also very important, and should be balanced against the idea of not caring what people think (a complimentary contradiction in terms which shall be explained in a later article on this fascinating subject)