Developing Relationships [Video]

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In this world it's easy to start to think that one is poor, lacking or does not have enough of something.

We feel unsuccessful in our lives, and success seems far away.

This is partly because we are thinking incorrectly about our life.

Instead of thinking we lack something we should start to understand that OUR LIFE HAS EVERYTHING IN IT THAT IT NEEDS. So there is no need to desire something more. It is this desire for more or better that creates a block in us receiving more or better. The irony is, that if we give up the desire for more, we start to receive more. The more we want or demand more, the less we receive.

So instead of thinking that our life lacks something, let us start to repeat the mantra "I am an abundance of love, health and wealth". Constantly repeat this mantra, believe it, embody it as the truth, that YOU ARE THE SOURCE OF EVERYTHING. Then that what you want, you have to learn to be the source of it.

For example, if you want to be wealthy, you have to imagine that you are already wealthy and start to give away some of your money. Even if you only have a little money left, give it away to somebody even less fortunate than you are. Donate. Help others out who are in financial difficulty. Start to live like you are wealthy and that you do not lack money. This is the secret to wealth and prosperity.

Similarly, the secret to happiness is to become the source of it. The secret to health is to become the source of it. This change in mind-set should be complemented with practical changes in lifestyle. A change in mind-set is nothing without action in the real world. So act like you are love, health, wealth and happiness and these are the things will start to show up in your life. The mantra can be modified to fit your particular situation.

Sat Naam.

10 Tips to Better Relationships

Relationships can be complex, when they go right they can fulfil our lives with tremendous joy, but when they go wrong it can feel like the end of the world - such is the power of love. So here are my top 10 tips to better relationships:

Tip #1: Expect Less - Nowadays people have high expectations, which come crashing down when they are not met. Expect less from your partner, live more simply.

Tip #2: Give More - People often forget to give to their partner - its in the giving that there is joy. So give a little more, stop being so selfish!

Tip #3: Look After Yourself - Remember that you are a person of equal value to your partner, however much you may love them. Remember to maintain yourself, take time to yourself, spend time with yourself.

Tip #4: Communicate Often - Communicate with your partner often, this is the only thing which lasts after physical beauty wanes - even right into old age!

Tip #5: Share Deep Thoughts - Often people forget to share their true deepest feelings, their true deep thoughts on nature, life, the universe, or whatever else is of interest. Remember to share with your partner at all levels, so you are left feeling totally fulfilled.

Tip #6: Forget Easily - We hold on to so much, even little things our partner has done wrong. Just drop it, forget it and move on - its a beautiful quality to have.

Tip #7: Love Freely - Jealously only comes into a relationship which has too much attachment. Love freely, don't restrict your partner from doing anything. Let the love flow freely like a bird, no one wants to be put into a cage.

Tip #8: Expand Your Circle of Love - Often in relationships couples become too concerned with each other and forget their friends and family and wider life purposes to some extent. Instead, as a couple you should go out, meet more people, make more friends and spread the love.

Tip #9: Feel The Love - Whenever any problem arises in a relationship, go back to your own heart and feel the love you have for your partner. Love gives us the strength to persevere through any problem or block.

Tip #10: Be Humble - Remember not to always have it your way, be humble and sensitive to other ways of doing things, always listen and take into account your partner's suggestions.

So applying all these top 10 tips, I don't see how your relationship cannot work out. Go on love birds - make it happen!

Are you trying to fix yourself?

It is obvious from all of our childhood comic book heros like Superman, Superwoman and the X-Men, that we all wish to have super powers and become perfect human beings, just like these superhuman caricatures.

However, the only reason we do not believe it is possible to become a Superman or a Superwoman is because we THINK there is something INHERENTLY WRONG with us which we spend our entire lives trying to FIX, either through worldly activities like parties, drinking, drugs, or even through spiritual activities like meditation, yoga, prayer. The side-effects may be different but the disease is the same - the disease of trying to fix ourselves constantly in order to feel 'OK' or 'normal' again.

We lead ourselves to believe that, "of course we have to fix ourselves, because nobody is perfect!" and "we all have weaknesses, emotions and habbits which we cannot overcome". Both of these are lies which we have led ourselves to believe.

The truth is very hard to accept: each of us are already perfect as we are, without needing to change a single thing about ourselves

It's one of those lovely paradoxical situations where as soon as you truly, whole heartedly accept and take on this above statement, then suddenly you will find yourself transform in an instant. The things which you thought were weaknesses or things you needed to change, automatically are transformed and no longer become limitations in your character - often they transform into your greatest strengths.

Accepting this statement TRULY does also give rise to super powers inside of you which shall help you in your path.

Stop trying to fix yourself through ANY means - only a person who is sick tries to fix themselves. A person who is healthy has no need for a fix, they already know they are healthly and need no medicine. Often the trap 'spiritual' people fall into is using meditation or yoga or prayer to fix themselves - but then they are no different to the alcoholics, junkies or socialites all who are trying to fix themselves because they think something is wrong which they must bring into balance.

Read this meditative poem:

• You are perfect as you are even with all of your biologoical needs for food and sex
• You are perfect as you are even with all of your emotional needs for having people around you, for wanting to feel loved, for feeling that your are somebody significant
• You are perfect as you are even with all of your sexual desires, anger, greed, attachment and ego, there is nothing wrong with any of these emotions
• You are perfect as you are even with all of those 'bad' habbits which you cannot seem to break
• You are perfect as you are even with all of your insecurities, fears and challenges
• You are perfect as you are even with all of your imbalances, diseases and illnesses
• You are perfect as you are even with all of your unluckiness, untidyness and ugliness
• You are perfect as you are even with all of your complaints, criticisms and blocks

Read this quote:

"Gurbani was not designed for the sick, it was designed for the Sikh"

By Guru's Grace - 05-09-2011

The meditation and quote above does not mean that a person who is sick cannot pray or gain benefit from reading the words of the Guru, it means that you can only truly understand the words of the Guru when you stop fixing yourself, and understand the who you were, who you have always been, who you are now and who you will continue to be in the future is perfect - because ultimately we are God masquerading as ourselves in the guise of a human body.

So LET IT GO! LET IT GO! LET IT GO! You're PERFECT as you are, accept yourself as being a perfect being.

Are you trying to fix yourself?

It is obvious from all of our childhood comic book heros like Superman, Superwoman and the X-Men, that we all wish to have super powers and become perfect human beings, just like these superhuman caricatures.

However, the only reason we do not believe it is possible to become a Superman or a Superwoman is because we THINK there is something INHERENTLY WRONG with us which we spend our entire lives trying to FIX, either through worldly activities like parties, drinking, drugs, or even through spiritual activities like meditation, yoga, prayer. The side-effects may be different but the disease is the same - the disease of trying to fix ourselves constantly in order to feel 'OK' or 'normal' again.

We lead ourselves to believe that, "of course we have to fix ourselves, because nobody is perfect!" and "we all have weaknesses, emotions and habbits which we cannot overcome". Both of these are lies which we have led ourselves to believe.

The truth is very hard to accept: each of us are already perfect as we are, without needing to change a single thing about ourselves

It's one of those lovely paradoxical situations where as soon as you truly, whole heartedly accept and take on this above statement, then suddenly you will find yourself transform in an instant. The things which you thought were weaknesses or things you needed to change, automatically are transformed and no longer become limitations in your character - often they transform into your greatest strengths.

Accepting this statement TRULY does also give rise to super powers inside of you which shall help you in your path.

Stop trying to fix yourself through ANY means - only a person who is sick tries to fix themselves. A person who is healthy has no need for a fix, they already know they are healthly and need no medicine. Often the trap 'spiritual' people fall into is using meditation or yoga or prayer to fix themselves - but then they are no different to the alcoholics, junkies or socialites all who are trying to fix themselves because they think something is wrong which they must bring into balance.

Read this meditative poem:

• You are perfect as you are even with all of your biologoical needs for food and sex
• You are perfect as you are even with all of your emotional needs for having people around you, for wanting to feel loved, for feeling that your are somebody significant
• You are perfect as you are even with all of your sexual desires, anger, greed, attachment and ego, there is nothing wrong with any of these emotions
• You are perfect as you are even with all of those 'bad' habbits which you cannot seem to break
• You are perfect as you are even with all of your insecurities, fears and challenges
• You are perfect as you are even with all of your imbalances, diseases and illnesses
• You are perfect as you are even with all of your unluckiness, untidyness and ugliness
• You are perfect as you are even with all of your complaints, criticisms and blocks

Read this quote:

"Gurbani was not designed for the sick, it was designed for the Sikh"

By Guru's Grace - 05-09-2011

The meditation and quote above does not mean that a person who is sick cannot pray or gain benefit from reading the words of the Guru, it means that you can only truly understand the words of the Guru when you stop fixing yourself, and understand the who you were, who you have always been, who you are now and who you will continue to be in the future is perfect - because ultimately we are God masquerading as ourselves in the guise of a human body.

So LET IT GO! LET IT GO! LET IT GO! You're PERFECT as you are, accept yourself as being a perfect being.

Scepticism and Infinity of the Human Being

Anything that promotes the infinity of human being shall always be naturally returned with a degree of scepticism, not only because human being has a tendency to be negative due to the negative mind being imbalanced, but also that human beings are a slave to their mind and ego to which the concept of infinity is a threat.

Therefore, it is not the soul of a person which has a problem which an expansion of consciousness, it is the mind which wants to remain the master. People are being played by the game of their mind and yet remain oblivious to this process. The process is a paradox. It is a paradox because in order to become free from the game of the mind, human beings must expand their consciousness, however, human beings are unaware they have to expand their consciousness because they remain blinded by the ego and the limited mind. Therefore, it is only through an experience or insight of the soul, which sometimes shines through, that this separation of mind, ego and soul becomes clearer and human being sets off on the path to realise their true unlimited selves within themselves. This is why human beings require a technology or tool to find the areas in which the ego and mind are playing a game, to become aware of their processes and in that awareness, become their master and not their slave.

However, even becoming unlimited is only part of the process. If a person has the power to do anything in the universe, it will bring a lot of satisfaction, but it shall not fulfil the person. Even if a human being learns to serve people, it shall bring happiness, but not fulfilment. Fulfilment is being fully-filled with love. This can only happen through a relationship. A worldly relationship may feel very fulfilling, but it is limited by time and space. Time because everyone must one day die and space because unless the person who you fall in love with is present, the separation causes pain. Worldly relationships are where a lot of technologies of finding infinity end, but it is where Sikh Dharma begins. Sikh Dharma allows the human being to fall in love with the Universal Consciousness which is beyond time and space, beyond birth and death. It is through this union with Universal Consciousness, God, Krishna, Vaheguru, Ram, Allah, whatever your terminology, that total fulfilment is possible. It is a love which never dies and is completely unconditional.

Together with being unlimited in being and fulfilled with unconditional love, the spiritual aspirant is ready to share and serve all people seeking the same spiritual path. In spiritual terminology these two concepts are known as Shakti and Bhakti. Shakti is power and Bhakti is devotion. Through a balance of Shakti and Bhakti, it is possible to become powerful yet graceful, and grounded yet intuitive. These are the two wings of a spiritual aspirant. An imbalance between these two forces, causes a person to walk towards their fate instead of their destiny. The fate is a series of causes and effects which lead a person into a reality that is not their destiny. The destiny of all human beings is to find the stillness and oneness within themselves.

In practical terms, you can develop Shakti through Kundalini Yoga, Kriya Yoga or other forms of spiritual unfolding and personal development which expands your being and your projection. However, Bhakti is developed through service of others (Seva or Karma Yoga), singing God's praises (Simran or Bhakti Yoga) and reading scriptures which make the head bow to the heart (Bani or Naad Yoga). Whatever spiritual path you take, you should make sure it is a tried and tested path to reach your inner infinity. If people in the past have followed such a path and found their Divine Indweller, then you can be sure it shall work for you, so long as you follow the tenants of that path with complete sincerity and submission. Therefore, it is important to chose a path and stick to it irrespective of your own judgements, scepticism and feelings. For nothing is as it seems, and strange are the ways of the masters and teachers.

Scepticism and Infinity of the Human Being

Anything that promotes the infinity of human being shall always be naturally returned with a degree of scepticism, not only because human being has a tendency to be negative due to the negative mind being imbalanced, but also that human beings are a slave to their mind and ego to which the concept of infinity is a threat.

Therefore, it is not the soul of a person which has a problem which an expansion of consciousness, it is the mind which wants to remain the master. People are being played by the game of their mind and yet remain oblivious to this process. The process is a paradox. It is a paradox because in order to become free from the game of the mind, human beings must expand their consciousness, however, human beings are unaware they have to expand their consciousness because they remain blinded by the ego and the limited mind. Therefore, it is only through an experience or insight of the soul, which sometimes shines through, that this separation of mind, ego and soul becomes clearer and human being sets off on the path to realise their true unlimited selves within themselves. This is why human beings require a technology or tool to find the areas in which the ego and mind are playing a game, to become aware of their processes and in that awareness, become their master and not their slave.

However, even becoming unlimited is only part of the process. If a person has the power to do anything in the universe, it will bring a lot of satisfaction, but it shall not fulfil the person. Even if a human being learns to serve people, it shall bring happiness, but not fulfilment. Fulfilment is being fully-filled with love. This can only happen through a relationship. A worldly relationship may feel very fulfilling, but it is limited by time and space. Time because everyone must one day die and space because unless the person who you fall in love with is present, the separation causes pain. Worldly relationships are where a lot of technologies of finding infinity end, but it is where Sikh Dharma begins. Sikh Dharma allows the human being to fall in love with the Universal Consciousness which is beyond time and space, beyond birth and death. It is through this union with Universal Consciousness, God, Krishna, Vaheguru, Ram, Allah, whatever your terminology, that total fulfilment is possible. It is a love which never dies and is completely unconditional.

Together with being unlimited in being and fulfilled with unconditional love, the spiritual aspirant is ready to share and serve all people seeking the same spiritual path. In spiritual terminology these two concepts are known as Shakti and Bhakti. Shakti is power and Bhakti is devotion. Through a balance of Shakti and Bhakti, it is possible to become powerful yet graceful, and grounded yet intuitive. These are the two wings of a spiritual aspirant. An imbalance between these two forces, causes a person to walk towards their fate instead of their destiny. The fate is a series of causes and effects which lead a person into a reality that is not their destiny. The destiny of all human beings is to find the stillness and oneness within themselves.

In practical terms, you can develop Shakti through Kundalini Yoga, Kriya Yoga or other forms of spiritual unfolding and personal development which expands your being and your projection. However, Bhakti is developed through service of others (Seva or Karma Yoga), singing God's praises (Simran or Bhakti Yoga) and reading scriptures which make the head bow to the heart (Bani or Naad Yoga). Whatever spiritual path you take, you should make sure it is a tried and tested path to reach your inner infinity. If people in the past have followed such a path and found their Divine Indweller, then you can be sure it shall work for you, so long as you follow the tenants of that path with complete sincerity and submission. Therefore, it is important to chose a path and stick to it irrespective of your own judgements, scepticism and feelings. For nothing is as it seems, and strange are the ways of the masters and teachers.