Saturday, 3 November 2012

Moving On

Dear friends,

I don't wish to underplay the importance of this closing letter - it is a significant moment for me which I would like to share with you all.

My life has moved into a new phase, a new chapter of creating a low-fat life which is simple and down-to-earth. On the surface it will appear to be an ordinary life but there is an extraordinary transformation going on within - a kind of germinating process.

I use the word 'extraordinary' with great reservation and trepidation as I am not in any way extraordinary or special - far from it. This transformation is happening within everyone constantly, whether one realises it or not, it always has and always will happen. It's the transformation of nature refining itself, redefining itself, unfolding itself in new ways, and discovering itself through itself anew in each moment. That's too incredible to really put into words - that's the very nature of the Universe - the great mystery of the Universe which keeps us fascinated, excited, discovering, wondering, enthralled and in love with life!

Everything which is born must die, only to be reborn again in a new form - this is what is happening to me and to New Life Awakening. Physically I may still be alive but my mind, my view of the world and of myself is dying, only to be reborn once again. So this is my goodbye letter to you all, as difficult as it is to write, I feel this is the end of this journey and hopefully the beginning of another. This blog, The Divine Within, has served its purpose for me to collate, refine and share my thoughts and experiences about myself and about the spiritual world - and I leave my thoughts here intact for reference.

In summary, out of all of my limited learning so far I just wanted to share that I feel so strongly right now that you should all be open and innocent with your love, talk as sweetly as possible with one another and if you want to challenge someone make sure you already have a strong friendship where you can challenge without causing hurt. Let's be honest, life's too short to go around hurting people. Life's too short to be indecisive. Life's too short to not do what you really deep down want to do. Life's too short to not live with total innocence, love, passion and joy. Life's too short to not share truthfully what you deeply want to say to someone in your heart.

So thank YOU dear friends for being here for me, for all your inspiration, comments, sweetness, kindness and openness, and for allowing me to pour out my heart to you and for you to accept me for who I am without judging or criticizing me. It's only for your service that I was born and that I continue to live.

In love, kindness and sadness,

Jasdeep Hari Bhajan Singh Khalsa.

02/11/12

Wednesday, 25 April 2012

15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy

Article by Dana from Purpose Fairy: http://www.purposefairy.com/3308/15-things-you-should-give-up-in-order-to-be-happy/


Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go:
1. Give up your need to always be right. There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?”Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?

2. Give up your need for control. 
Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.
“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu
3. Give up on blame. Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.
4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk. Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.
“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle
5. Give up your limiting beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!
“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle
6. Give up complaining. Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.
7. Give up the luxury of criticism. Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.
8. Give up your need to impress others. Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take of all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.
9. Give up your resistance to change. Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” 
Joseph Campbell
10. Give up labels. Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer
11. Give up on your fears. Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.
“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.”
 Franklin D. Roosevelt
12. Give up your excuses. Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.
13. Give up the past. I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.
14. Give up attachment. This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another,  attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.
15. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations. Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves.  You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.

Thursday, 19 April 2012

Are You A Hypocrite?

The path to self realisation begins with the thought that 'I am a hypocrite'. Admitting the truth, only then can things change.

I have had many realisations like this, many times, and I hope I continue to throughout my life as it keeps me on my toes and makes me realise that I'm not perfect and still have a lot to learn. It keeps me learning, sometimes very harsh lessons.

Being a personal development coach requires one to always be alert to what is really going on inside. Sometimes I find that I don't follow my own advice and ultimately it leads to my own downfall, and I end up being very harsh to myself about it. 

I usually know the answer but I'm not always willing to follow the answer, trust the answer, live the answer. Change is easy to delay unless there is a pressure to change, and often, there is no pressure from the outside, so it must be created from within.

One of the greatest pressures is the thought of death. I ask myself, "are you really willing to continue being a hypocrite if you were to die tomorrow, is what you're doing worth it?"

This is how I learn. I learn by assessing where I'm being inauthentic in my life. I learn from where I'm preaching but not practising. I learn by remembering death.

So, ask yourself these same very blunt questions if you think you're ready for a transformation in your life:
  • Where are you being a hypocrite in your life?
  • What will it take for you to change?
  • What happens if you were to die tomorrow, is what you're doing worth it?
Sat Naam.

Tuesday, 17 April 2012

Quote of the Day - Benefit

"There is always a benefit, if you look hard enough"

Friday, 13 April 2012

How To Be Original

Originality is a simple formula:

Be You + Don't Care What Others Think + Express Yourself = Originality

Well Einstein did say the formula to everything would be simple ;)

So...

Basically: express your true self.

Your true self is already perfectly original. God doesn't make mistakes and doesn't repeat Himself. God doesn't repeat Himself.

The question then arises: I don't know what my true self is? And how do I express it?

The true self is the unconditioned self. First you have to do A LOT OF WORK on yourself. Undo the conditioning of society, family, religion. Undo beliefs, morals, preferences, likes, dislikes. Undo your personality and know why you do what you do.

Then you learn to not BE anything, except just yourself. Then you're not trying to manipulate people or boost your own ego either quietly or overtly, you're not trying to ACT like anybody else, you're not trying to mimic someone else (not even your role models), you're just authentically YOU.

Because you're not so worried about how you come across, you naturally feel OK to express yourself just how you are. This is how you can learn to just flow. Creativity is your nature. Creativity is only blocked when you're trying too hard to impress, to fit into somebody else's box, to try and modify yourself so you are more 'acceptable'. Be you. Don't Care What Others Think. Express Yourself.

...then you'll be creatively original.

Sat Naam.

Wednesday, 11 April 2012

Struggling Against The Inevitable

Often we know something is inevitable, and although we try to struggle against it, to fight the current, we know we cannot stop it.

Like old ideas. We hold onto them, but inevitably they will die out. Like old relationships. We hold onto them, but they cannot continue.

For example...

The idea that money, property, wealth and position are important is outdated.
The idea that manipulation and secrecy are important is outdated.
The idea that competition and winning are important is outdated.

The idea that personality, names, titles and qualifications are important is outdated.

The idea that you can achieve happiness outside of yourself is outdated.

For example, we "believe" in a God. Believing in God does not make God so. God exists independent of our opinions or beliefs. God is too vast to believe in, to understand, to comprehend. And yet we still try to know Him, we still try to reach him. You can only reach the God in you. You cannot reach the God beyond the beyond. We want to hold onto something beyond ourselves, we are not secure in holding onto our own self within ourselves.

We do not realise that we are Gods. Our hands have the power of creation and destruction, as do our lips, our minds and our hearts.

But, we continue to struggle.

Religion is just a set of beliefs and rituals which are empty without consciousness. The job of religion is for individuals to grow in self awareness, in truth, in compassion and love for everyone, but often people who are insecure hold onto religion as a means of feeling reassured. People of such consciousness are outdated, they will not understand the new world which is coming to be.

Struggle happens when our expectations are not met by reality. Reality is changing and so should our expectations. The world is changing and so should our expectations. The universe is changing and so should our expectations.

The struggle only ends when we grow, when we learn to flow, when we learn to give it up.

Do not struggle dear soul of the new age, go with the flow, and allow the flow to lead you into the ultimate light of awareness and beauty.

Sat Naam.

Monday, 9 April 2012

Quote of the Day - Singing

"I want to sing like the birds sing, not worrying about who hears or what they think"

Rumi